Tag Archives: being real

She doesn’t want to run away this time

Six years ago on New Year’s Eve a dear friend experienced a sexual assault. A year and a half later she started talking about it but stopped when it became too much, too overwhelming. Other symptoms took over, requiring attention … Continue reading

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Writing update

I’m thinking about real writing. I’ve published under a pseudonym recently. I wonder what it would be like to own those emotions, those words. I have a lot to say. I just want to know “it’s okay” to say. And … Continue reading

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Choose to be okay with not knowing why

You want a reason, a label, a point-to, a know-how.  You want to know why. Why you sleep through the night, but feel exhausted when your alarm goes off. Why you suddenly have no taste for the morning, no desire … Continue reading

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Let go of what no longer serves you

There is nothing wrong with you, friend. You are not broken, you are not a failure, a fuckup, a mistake. There is nothing inherently wrong with you. You do not destroy every life you come in contact with. You are … Continue reading

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Invalidation cycle

Observations: Notice the energy in the room, full of spinning anxieties and pain. Notice your sense of “there isn’t enough room for me,” and witness yourself shutting down. Notice how you disqualify your own emotional experience, invalidate yourself. Notice that … Continue reading

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It’s okay

It’s okay to feel exactly how you feel exactly when you feel it. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed even when “nothing major” is going on. It’s okay to let other people feel how they feel and let yourself feel how … Continue reading

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Developing a growth mindset

I am the only student in my Kindergarten class who starts the year in September knowing how to read. I don’t think too much of it, but some adults, especially Mom, have told me I am so smart, and I … Continue reading

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